Ever since I was a little kid I have always longed for my "soul-mate"
to marry and start a family with. It has always been my #1 goal in life
instead of having a career or doing something amazing with my life.
The problem now is that I am with a really great girl, the kind of girl
who is good for me, a Transforming Person who has big dreams
of making a difference in this world. We are both 20 and in college,
but I find myself planning my life around her. I know she wants to be
with a Transforming Person as well, an individual whose life doesn't
revolve around her, like mine often does. How do I find what my
authentic self really wants, and how do I know when my goals
in life are the unhealthy, Nice Guy part of me talking? | answer